"The modern dating world has changed with the popularity of dating apps," says Dr. Lewandowski Jr., a professor and department chair of psychology at Monmouth University and co-founder of Stay Go.
"As a result, now more than ever, people are dating blind.
Is it possible we really can't tell on our own if our relationships suck?
If you find yourself thinking that dating just isn’t what it used to be, you’re right.
When newly dating, people also tend to play down their past relational wreckage and personal liabilities.
Have you ever fudged "the number" when asked about your sexual history or not completely owned up to your own role in a messy break-up?
Very few people receive any formal education or training in fostering quality relationships.” The only tool we’re using to find a wifey, is Wi-Fi. Lewandowski is quick to point out that Stay Go and other similar apps aren't there to replace or imitate therapy -- rather to function as a “check-up or indicator” on the present status of your relationship.
So with little in the way of a traditional foundation to build a relationship -- you know, like a shared community or belief system -- people have nothing more than a few profile pics and (hopefully) quippy bio to go on. After toying around with it, the app does provide a new way of looking at your relationships and forces you to answer questions you may not have dared to ask yourself, questions that might prompt you to seek therapy.
But not only are we using apps to find love, we’re using them to rank it.
And should a one-night stand turn into something more serious, you can now download an app like Stay Go to help rate your relationship and determine whether it’s, well... But with every new bit of "smart" technology, we have to ask: is all this digital assistance making us dumber about navigating relationships?
But weeks or months later it's also natural for your warts-and-all self to show up — which can lead to that "what was I thinking?
" moment — if the difference between the persona you presented initially and who you are when the infatuation stage cools is steep.
Here are some of the myths about twentysomethings that this year's Singles in America survey will hopefully put to rest for good.