People in my mother's group of friends, a lot of women that have gone through divorces, or are ready for something new.
The first girl, he said, was “a little too tall,” and the second girl was “a little too short.” Then he met my mom. Let’s look at how I do things, maybe with a slightly less important decision, like the time I had to pick where to eat dinner in Seattle when I was on tour last year.
He quickly deduced that she was the appropriate height (finally! First I texted four friends who travel and eat out a lot and whose judgment I trust. Finally I made my selection: Il Corvo, an Italian place that sounded amazing. (It only served lunch.) At that point I had run out of time because I had a show to do, so I ended up making a peanut-butter-and-banana sandwich on the bus.
So while, for better or for worse, most everybody has tried an online dating app at this point, I think they would tell you, in the 18- to 35-year-old age range.
And now what I'm seeing is a new wave of kind of second-round daters joining.
Whether it’s where I’m eating, where I’m traveling or, God forbid, something I’m buying, like a lot of people in my generation—those in their 20s and 30s—I feel compelled to do a ton of research to make sure I’m getting every option and then making the best choice.
If this mentality pervades our decisionmaking in so many realms, is it also affecting how we choose a romantic partner?
It's not that women don't do it; it's just that the men do it much more.
According to a MSNBC survey, 30% of the men using an online dating service are married. Well…there really is no fool proof method and sadly catching a liar online can be harder than catching the married guy hitting on you at the bar.
The fact that there's actually a market for married people in online dating baffles us a little.