Swimming, running, hiking, dancing, cooking, gardening, climbing, painting, writing...
If possible, it should be something that holds your attention and requires enough focus to get you into that state of 'flow', or relaxed concentration, where you forget about everything else. Seriously consider doing something like this at least once a week.
You need to have a discussion with yourself about if you are ready to become more sexual. How can you know what you want and what feels good sexually if you are unsure what is even down there in the first place?
Once you decide it’s for you then go on to the next step. A hand mirror works best to take a look at what you really look like.
How about when I'm forty; at a party or having a job interview? Being totally at ease striking up conversations with new people in social or business settings hugely improves life as you simultaneously have more fun and create more opportunities. Sure, confidently telling a stranger they have a nose the size of Trinidad is unlikely to win immediate friendship however pleasant your demeanour.
But what if the prospect of starting a conversation leaves you feeling weaker at the knees than a jellyfish on stilts? But the fact remains that when you're relaxed and confident, you'll transmit that comfort to the person(s) with whom you're communicating.
Once you’ve made that start, you can begin to think of more things and create a positive image of yourself.
Why not post on the message board and see what others have written?Understand that most orgasms stem from your clitoris so it’s important to find where it is positioned. But there are loads of ways to boost your confidence and self-esteem with our top tips. Being confident means being comfortable with how you look and how you feel. Whenever you wish that you had a certain quality, practise acting ‘as if’ you already had that quality. Fear, especially unnecessary fear, blocks opportunity. If you've always tended to wait until new people start chatting to you, then it may feel overwhelming to reverse that habit. Well, often they fear saying the 'wrong thing', but what does that mean?This means anything you say is more likely to feel right (within sensible limits). But gentle, not too probing, questions show you're interested (and people find interested people interesting).Sometimes your confidence can come and go depending on the situation you're in. If you're shy, you could talk to someone at school who you haven't spoken to before. But after you’ve done it once, you’ll slowly gain the confidence to do it again and eventually, it will come naturally. No matter how low you feel, try to find one thing that you like about yourself.