So, try not to label yourself based on one interaction which was probably superficial anyway. It may also help you to maintain a better perspective and view the situation as one door closing so that another one can open.
Be careful that you don’t give your power away and allow someone who doesn’t really know you to have a great deal of influence over your self-image. If a match wasn’t interested in talking with you – well go and talk to another one, there are many more online.
Here’s how I’m learning to let rejection roll off my back.
A few days after he suggested the trip, he asked if he could come earlier than we'd planned.
And a few days after that, he said he wouldn’t be able to make it until April, and actually, this wasn’t going to work and he couldn’t do it anymore. Six weeks later, I met a guy I through Tinder, which so rarely happens it’s like the unicorn of dating experiences.
Getting Back Out There ("GBOT") talks about rejection (one of the 5 R's).
One thing it says is "Don't take it personally." In the media interviews I've done since the book was released, the most common question is: HOW DO YOU NOT TAKE REJECTION PERSONALLY????
Whichever stage it happens at how it affects you will depend very much on how you think about it.
Although it may feel very hurtful it is not you as a person that is being rejected.
In December, a guy I went to high school with started messaging me on Facebook.
That escalated to texting every day, phone dates, and him bringing up visiting me over Valentine's Day weekend (he was in the Midwest, I'm in New York City).
Happily, we’re here to help Rejection can occur at all different stages in the dating process.
Right at the beginning you might send a match a one liner and they don’t respond at all; you may be chatting on line and they suddenly cut contact or block you; you may go on a first date and you think it has gone really well but they decide they don’t want to see you again or you may have been on a few dates and then they change their mind.
The support of people who care about you can even be the springboard that allows you to jump back into the dating pool.