KB: What are some things to consider when placing an ad? MB: Personally, I look for someone who lives within 10 miles of my location, someone with similar political views, in my age range, and other things that might catch my eye like a similar interest in books or movies. KB: How do you decide who it's safe to give you phone number to?MB: First and foremost: Check your spelling and grammar! MB: I always correspond through email or instant messenger before talking to someone on the phone.
Lesbianlife Guide Kathy Belge interviews her sister Mary Belge.
Since Ive been in a relationship for fourteen years and have not had to opportunity to date online, I asked my sister Mary, also a lesbian, with lots of online dating experience for some advice. MB: There are many internet dating sites and new ones seem to pop up all the time. You can also check out Butch-Femme if you are into butch/femme roles, although this site is a bit harder to navigate.
'I’d encourage you to spend time investing in your future happiness by really thinking about how you want to come across in your profile'Tell the truth because a relationship founded on a lie sucks.
Change the things about yourself you can so that you don’t feel tempted to be dishonest.
Most people are in a hurry to write a profile and get it online so that they can begin dating. I’m looking for: ‘my love of street food led me to write a blog about London’s amazing street food scene’.
I’d encourage you to spend time investing in your future happiness by really thinking about how you want to come across in your profile. One of the exercises I give clients is to list five reasons why someone would want to date them. 'Most people are in a hurry to write a profile and get it online,' Rebecca explains.
Ask yourself when you’ve read through your profile, “Would I date me? So many people create a shopping list of requirements of your ideal date, or a long list of hobbies and interests. Remember, your profile is a micro story of who you are.
Share an anecdote of you doing one of your hobbies.
And while liking “cats” is good, ceding profile space to “my cats” is not.