“It helped, because I got to see what 'normal' looked like,” Roché says.“I also saw that my ex wasn't the only guy who would want to be with me.And the pool of single men looked more like a droplet compared with the ocean available to her during her younger years. Census Bureau, approximately nine in 10 people will marry, but about one half of first marriages end in divorce.
"Know that it's okay to be exactly who you are," says Erik Newton, a former divorce lawyer and the founder of Together, a magazine and podcast for couples.
"You've grown and changed; you're stronger and wiser, and, yes, you also have some wounds.
Read on for 10 tips that will help you get back in Cupid's good graces.
Whether it's been one year or six since the divorce decree, you may never know with absolute clarity that you're truly ready for another relationship.
If it's been so long since you've been in the game that you still think Netflix and chill means watching Netflix and well, chilling, it's fair to fear the world of swiping right and left and up and down.
Yes, it can be disheartening to jump back in to the dating world; weren't you supposed to be done with this?
So let yourself shine."Dating and empowerment coach Laurel House agrees, suggesting that you need to get comfortable being alone as well.
"You don't need to feel like you 'should' be out doing things," she says.
Once the idea of going on a date comes into your mind and you don't want to chase it out again, you're at least ready to start, she says. The idea is that you should consciously decide how you want to proceed," which will in turn inform how you go about meeting people.
If it's truly awful, take a step back and wait some more. Gadoua, who runs dating workshops for women, asks them to free-associate words that come to mind when they think of "dating." Not surprisingly, words like "awful" and "dreadful" come up.
But it's also tough, she adds, because once you're on the dating scene you can feel like a teenager again, in that shaky, unconfident, not-sure-if-he'll-call sort of way.