It can also help you create some really detrimental negative attitudes about men that will hurt you more than anything else.
The boy I crushed on for months only wanted to be friends. Many literary agents thought my manuscript wasn’t a good fit for them.
And eventually, I endured the ultimate form of rejection: The man who promised to be by my side till “death do us part” changed his mind.
Never get too invested in someone you’ve never seen in person and never heard speak. There’s a chance you committed a blunder that spooked your paramour. Online dating prospects are like buses, fortunately or unfortunately.
Try to take some ownership over why that may have happened. There are lots of places to blow it with online dating. There is always another one right around the corner.
Don’t become one of those bitter-ass people who comes to me hurt and broken, trying to sell me the same old sob story about how there’s no one good out there (or much worse, that men are jerks). No matter what you’re like, in all age groups, across the world, there is someone who you would really enjoy splitting a meal and/or a bedroom with. You might feel like you had the rug pulled out from under you but once you get your emotions back on track it will seem like a real blessing.
There are tons of worthy, beautiful people out there who want to date you. The fear of rejection alone keeps so many people from getting what they desperately want in their lives. I guarantee you won’t be on your deathbed saying “I’m so glad I never flirted with that hot guy, he might not have liked me.” I feel ridiculous even typing that.
Those are two terms that are pretty much synonymous.
I have been the culprit in rejecting many online dates.
Here’s how to deal with rejection without driving yourself crazy.